Wont be his lover but im his friend?

Dear Jodi,

My ex boyfriend and I are still good friends but i think its only because we are so comfortable with each other we dont want to break totally away from each other.  Nothing has change about him since we broke up, as a matter of fact he got worse... BUT i find myself engaging in late night convos with him and wanting him to cuddle with me.  Also he know my rule about no sex unless we are in a relationship but he still doesnt care.  He wants what he wants and thats it.  So i feel like he just talks to me to see if ill have sex with him and thats not cool.  He doesnt woo me anymore or try to impress me, nothing.  Even our conversations are getting dull.  Idk i want us to remain friends but i know i shouldnt.  Do i have to stop being his friends and if so how do i stop?

Friends Forever? lol

LOL Friends Forever? 


Even you had to laugh at that... Ok so i tend to not like to answer questions that i know the person already knows the answer but you saved urself by asking the second question of 'How do i stop?' 
Before i aswer how do you stop i want to make sure you understand WHY it is you have no other choice but to pull away from this selfish bastard. First you admit that the main reason yall still friends is because you single and just use to his ignorance... Remember you said 'i think its only because we are so comfortable with each other we dont want to break totally away from each other.' Yea, translation:'Im single and i have nothing to occupy my time'  Find a good book and go sat down somewhere honey.  THEN you admitted that not only has he not changed any for the better, he has gotten worse... Like really? Listen to urself sweety. Then he dont woo you no more, take you out nothing... SO in counclusion he dont like you... AT ALL. Cause i have friends that'll at least take a sista to burger king so i can have something my way. Dang! SO to answer your first question (that you already know the answer too) Let his ass go... Immediately.  He aint sh!t and aint tryna be cause ur not demanding him to be. 
Now 'How  to stop being his comfort zone- I mean friend' you ask? Well you have to commit to it. 
First: delete his number, even though i know uve memorized it, delete it. 
Two: call him (b4 u delete the number) and explain to him that you guys are not in a relationship and you dont wanna give up the nootch, therefore you will not and if thats all he wants he can go somewhere else. 
      -You need to say whats on yo mind, EVERYTHING worse case senario, he get mad and dont call u no more, which is what u need!
Three: understand that you deserve more than what you have and do something about it. 
      -Get you a friend, put yo freeak 'em dress on and go have some fun, get some attention from someone that at least has enough sense not to tell you he wanna bone right off the bat! Jeeze!
Four: Whenever you feel like calling him punch urself in the eye... Seriously.  Two results, u gon stop wantin to call him, or u gon call him and he gon come over but not want you no more cause you got a big stupid black eye.  Either way i get what i want :-)


Let me know what happens,
Jodi~


P.S. Have you seen 'He's not that into you'?  If not its a must see.  Females need to here they are not the exception so even if they are, they can apprieciate it more.